Twin Flames, Faith, & Other Love Interests or Suitors

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I wanted to share what I’ve learned on the above subject. It’s a little personal, and while I hope not to get too personal, it’s necessary to share some details.

If you resonate with twin flames and feel that connection with someone, then you probably also recognize that this journey is one of faith. Faith can easily be the most difficult aspect, because we are accustomed to looking for results on the outside before we make any shifts internally. As you understand more how reality works, you know this is backwards. It can lead us to go in circles and feel unable to shift a situation.

We are also presented with many tests on this path, some of them in the form of other love interests or suitors. I feel that this is the universe saying to me, “Will you take this chance to settle for less than what you want, or will you keep the faith?” Before I became more at peace with all of it, I felt the question was, “What’s wrong with you, that you can’t take these opportunities with other potentials?” It left me feeling hopeless, that I would be alone forever. I tried more than I should have to make some of these other opportunities work, at the expense of my deep sensitivities.

If you find yourself interested romantically or sexually in another person – first of all, that’s completely normal, and there is nothing wrong with it. But you might find, when that happens and especially if it’s rare, you’re attracted to the person because they have traits that remind you of your TF. When this has happened for me and I pursued it, my TF was always in the background of my thoughts.

It was him I really wanted, regardless of whether I could be happy with someone else. I found that these relationships naturally fell away or didn’t work out for whatever reason. It was never because I brought up my TF or seemed hung up on him in any way. Usually, it was the other person who wanted to end things.

As you work on yourself spiritually and raise your vibration, you’re going to be overwhelmed with people who want some of your energy, and many of them might put a romantic interpretation on this. It does not matter what you look like; raising your vibration can make you physically attractive. (I know people who have used law of attraction to lose weight and even look younger.) Not to mention, people will see the light in your heart and not all of them will have the best intentions – the problem is, they aren’t aware of this. They just see this beautiful, compassionate, caring person that you are, and they want to make you theirs somehow.

This can be confusing at first. When it happened for me, I wondered, “Where are these men coming from, and why so suddenly? Am I not being open enough to the opportunities the universe is giving me?” The truth was, I was attracted to none of them, and as I became more aware that they loved my compassion and care more than me as a person, I slowly backed away. Because of my gifts, I understood them and was able to make them feel seen, but this was often one-sided. I did not receive it in return. Some of them said that I treated them in a way that no other woman ever had – and this was simply because I listened to them and validated their feelings. While that is a shame that it’s not a more common occurrence in their lives, this did not equate to love. True love takes much more than this, and it must flow both ways in order for both parties to feel satisfied and healthy.

If you are not yet in alignment with TF union on all levels, please don’t feel guilty if you seem to be having many other chances for a partner, but you aren’t accepting them. If you experience many suitors and wonder whether to accept their offers of companionship, look carefully at the other person’s energy and intentions toward you.

Some questions you might ask yourself:

  1. Does my body tense up when this person talks to me?
  2. Does this person offer more problems than solutions?
  3. Does this person seem clingy, or like they want more than I can give them right now?
  4. Are they being patient and kind, or demanding and passive-aggressive? Does it seem like they make up problems to get my attention?

These questions are especially important for those of you who identify as empaths.

One such suitor in my life threatened suicide after I turned him down. This was after I had given the relationship an honest try, but he behaved in a way that hurt me. After he told me he wanted to die, I spent the rest of the day desperately trying to help him and called the suicide prevention line for him, since he wouldn’t call it himself. He suddenly stopped texting me and I feared the worst. For several months, I carried this in my heart, and then he reached out to me, out of the blue. I was so happy he was alive that I agreed to see him. It became apparent that he wanted more than I wanted to give him, but I felt afraid to say no again. He sensed that none of my heart was behind it and became angry with me. I eventually had to block him.

I knew I couldn’t help him, and even if I did love him, it wouldn’t change anything. He held on to the belief that life was hopeless and lonely. He held on to a deep dislike of humanity. I could not change these things for him. After working so hard on myself to emerge from my depression, I did not want to be around someone who could drag me back into my old ways of thinking and feeling.

Pay attention to your red flags, and don’t doubt yourself if you want to hold out for your true love. Remember that love is patient and kind. You will be a gentle healing agent to many in your lifetime, but you also deserve this in return. You deserve a partner who can be positive and strong for you as you are for him/her. You’ve done far too much work and gone too far just to go this far.

This is not even about “waiting” for your TF.

It’s about your faith that the universe has something wonderful in store for you.

Dealing With Disagreement as a Conscious Manifestor

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The Law of Attraction itself is straightforward – what you think, believe, and feel predominantly is what you get. What is not so straightforward is living a conscious manifesting lifestyle while those close to you don’t believe, make fun of it, or disapprove.

Last week, I watched the second night of the DNC’s debates that featured Marianne Williamson. She concluded her appearance by saying that President Trump has harnessed fear for political purposes, and now she intends to harness love with her campaign. Even though I very much admire her and agree with her on several issues, I cringed a little as she said it – not because it isn’t true or I disliked it, but because I was imagining the jeers from people in response to her words. I went to bed, and in the morning, Twitter was flooded with memes and articles poking fun at that soundbite. But Marianne Williamson, unlike me, seemed to draw strength from the jokes and could laugh along with everyone. We would all do well to live by her example of taking our jobs, but not ourselves, seriously.

The response above got me thinking about the spiritual closet and how tempting it is to get in there, lock the door, and throw away the key. I have come running out of the closet, and I have poked a few toes gradually out of the closet, but I always have a way of cramming myself back in there the moment I feel like someone disagrees with me or thinks my spirituality is funny or weird. Sometimes I hesitate to write these articles, because I first imagine the response of those who won’t agree, instead of the ones it can help. I have even experienced family thinking I am in a cult after I began writing and sharing articles like these on my social media.

We all struggle with this. We focus on the negative rather than on our achievements. Someone telling me they appreciate me is forgotten the instant someone criticizes me. A nice article about how there are plastic-eating mushrooms in the world is forgotten when I see a photo of plastic waste in the ocean. This is how our minds have been trained, and it can be very difficult to “undo” this. That’s why being consistent and persistent as a conscious creator in the face of perceived failure and others’ disapproval is so very important.

When you live a manifesting lifestyle and try to share with your loved ones about your signs and synchs, or how you’ve changed your thinking, you might be met with resistance. Even if you don’t share, it’s easy to pick up on vibes and know whether someone would be open to LOA or think it’s just a bunch of fairy dust nonsense. I have noticed that people often turn to humor or sarcasm when they don’t know how to respond to one’s beliefs or spirituality. I feel that there is no true malicious intent behind this response, but it’s more because the person is experiencing discomfort with the ideas.

It’s important to understand that while people may disagree or think you’re partaking in silly nonsense that will never amount to anything, their being in disagreement does not affect your ability to attract good into your life. You could be best friends with someone, and their beliefs wouldn’t always be your beliefs. Even if they try to make you feel bad about that or give you evidence of why they’re right, disagreeing is a natural part of being a human on a path specific to you among other humans on other paths specific to them.

As I saw from the Marianne Williamson example, it takes great strength to continue along with your desired path when it seems like a lot of people, or those who are most important to you, do not agree with it or think it’s funny. Sometimes we can make the choice not to speak to anyone about our biggest dreams and thus avoid responses that don’t feel so great, but sometimes, we must be brave enough to speak or write about them so that others who think similarly can benefit from the light we bring to the world.

Disagreement does not equal a lack of love and respect for another person. It simply means that the way you’re living your life, the choices you’re making, differ from someone else’s way. And that is not inherently bad or wrong. If someone else pokes fun at your spirituality or says something negative about it – or thinks you’re in a cult – that’s not your problem. It’s not theirs, either. It’s actually not a problem at all. Remember that saying, “What someone else thinks of you is none of your business”? It’s popular because it’s true. Everything someone says or what they feel is neutral to us, until we give it meaning.

Disagreeing is a natural part of being a human on a path specific to you among other humans on other paths specific to them.

I was miserable when I realized people disapproved of my spirituality, because I chose to take that disapproval to heart. I made it mean that something was wrong with me, that I wasn’t loved. But neither of these statements hold any truth.

If your conscious approach to the law of attraction is working for you, or if you’re yet to see results but feeling better as a result of choosing positive thoughts, that’s all that matters. Maybe it doesn’t work for your Uncle Joe. You don’t have control over Uncle Joe’s life, but you have control over yours. Next time Uncle Joe makes fun of you or asks with a sneer “how those witchcraft books are working for you,” I hope you’ll smile and tell him they’re great.

Next time you feel tempted to take someone’s opinion of you or your life and make it into a story, or allow it to define you in any way, I hope you will remember this. I hope you will continue reading your law of attraction books and twin flame blogs and never cease to choose what makes you feel the tiniest bit better, even if someone else had something mean to say about it. I hope you will continue loving people that you “shouldn’t” love. I hope you will continue writing about topics that may make certain people uncomfortable, because your work will provide relief to countless others.

I hope you will continue to create good things for yourself because you have the power to do so, and that power cannot be taken away by anyone else.