The Law of Attraction itself is straightforward – what you think, believe, and feel predominantly is what you get. What is not so straightforward is living a conscious manifesting lifestyle while those close to you don’t believe, make fun of it, or disapprove.
Last week, I watched the second night of the DNC’s debates that featured Marianne Williamson. She concluded her appearance by saying that President Trump has harnessed fear for political purposes, and now she intends to harness love with her campaign. Even though I very much admire her and agree with her on several issues, I cringed a little as she said it – not because it isn’t true or I disliked it, but because I was imagining the jeers from people in response to her words. I went to bed, and in the morning, Twitter was flooded with memes and articles poking fun at that soundbite. But Marianne Williamson, unlike me, seemed to draw strength from the jokes and could laugh along with everyone. We would all do well to live by her example of taking our jobs, but not ourselves, seriously.
The response above got me thinking about the spiritual closet and how tempting it is to get in there, lock the door, and throw away the key. I have come running out of the closet, and I have poked a few toes gradually out of the closet, but I always have a way of cramming myself back in there the moment I feel like someone disagrees with me or thinks my spirituality is funny or weird. Sometimes I hesitate to write these articles, because I first imagine the response of those who won’t agree, instead of the ones it can help. I have even experienced family thinking I am in a cult after I began writing and sharing articles like these on my social media.
We all struggle with this. We focus on the negative rather than on our achievements. Someone telling me they appreciate me is forgotten the instant someone criticizes me. A nice article about how there are plastic-eating mushrooms in the world is forgotten when I see a photo of plastic waste in the ocean. This is how our minds have been trained, and it can be very difficult to “undo” this. That’s why being consistent and persistent as a conscious creator in the face of perceived failure and others’ disapproval is so very important.
When you live a manifesting lifestyle and try to share with your loved ones about your signs and synchs, or how you’ve changed your thinking, you might be met with resistance. Even if you don’t share, it’s easy to pick up on vibes and know whether someone would be open to LOA or think it’s just a bunch of fairy dust nonsense. I have noticed that people often turn to humor or sarcasm when they don’t know how to respond to one’s beliefs or spirituality. I feel that there is no true malicious intent behind this response, but it’s more because the person is experiencing discomfort with the ideas.
It’s important to understand that while people may disagree or think you’re partaking in silly nonsense that will never amount to anything, their being in disagreement does not affect your ability to attract good into your life. You could be best friends with someone, and their beliefs wouldn’t always be your beliefs. Even if they try to make you feel bad about that or give you evidence of why they’re right, disagreeing is a natural part of being a human on a path specific to you among other humans on other paths specific to them.
As I saw from the Marianne Williamson example, it takes great strength to continue along with your desired path when it seems like a lot of people, or those who are most important to you, do not agree with it or think it’s funny. Sometimes we can make the choice not to speak to anyone about our biggest dreams and thus avoid responses that don’t feel so great, but sometimes, we must be brave enough to speak or write about them so that others who think similarly can benefit from the light we bring to the world.
Disagreement does not equal a lack of love and respect for another person. It simply means that the way you’re living your life, the choices you’re making, differ from someone else’s way. And that is not inherently bad or wrong. If someone else pokes fun at your spirituality or says something negative about it – or thinks you’re in a cult – that’s not your problem. It’s not theirs, either. It’s actually not a problem at all. Remember that saying, “What someone else thinks of you is none of your business”? It’s popular because it’s true. Everything someone says or what they feel is neutral to us, until we give it meaning.
Disagreeing is a natural part of being a human on a path specific to you among other humans on other paths specific to them.
I was miserable when I realized people disapproved of my spirituality, because I chose to take that disapproval to heart. I made it mean that something was wrong with me, that I wasn’t loved. But neither of these statements hold any truth.
If your conscious approach to the law of attraction is working for you, or if you’re yet to see results but feeling better as a result of choosing positive thoughts, that’s all that matters. Maybe it doesn’t work for your Uncle Joe. You don’t have control over Uncle Joe’s life, but you have control over yours. Next time Uncle Joe makes fun of you or asks with a sneer “how those witchcraft books are working for you,” I hope you’ll smile and tell him they’re great.
Next time you feel tempted to take someone’s opinion of you or your life and make it into a story, or allow it to define you in any way, I hope you will remember this. I hope you will continue reading your law of attraction books and twin flame blogs and never cease to choose what makes you feel the tiniest bit better, even if someone else had something mean to say about it. I hope you will continue loving people that you “shouldn’t” love. I hope you will continue writing about topics that may make certain people uncomfortable, because your work will provide relief to countless others.
I hope you will continue to create good things for yourself because you have the power to do so, and that power cannot be taken away by anyone else.