You Deserve Love That Excites You

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Yes, you. You deserve love that excites you.

I’ve noticed a lot of people associating a feeling of “butterflies” with anxiety or an unhealthy relationship dynamic. I’m of the opinion that there are different categories of butterflies. Yes, some can be from a nervous feeling you get just before you take uninspired action (i.e. action stemming from anxiety or a sense that you can’t have what you want). It may have also come up if you’ve ever been in an abusive situation that left you shaking and with knots in your stomach.

But then there are the butterflies you get right before you kiss someone you’ve wanted to kiss for a long time. There is the electricity of skin on skin contact with someone you adore. There are feelings of warmth that you get all over when you’re in someone’s arms, someone you care for, someone special to you. These are good butterflies. These are the ones you deserve to experience.

I feel that a lot of people have been settling into connections where their heart isn’t all in, or maybe they are even a bit bored, because they feel safer in those. They don’t bring up those feelings of anxiety or neediness. There is nothing wrong with that. But as a free spirit, I prefer being alone over a situation where I feel just so-so. I have worked hard for everything I have in my life, and I don’t want to share it with just anyone. I have a big heart and beautiful love to give, and I want to share it with someone who wants every bit of that, who is willing to give it back.

I used to believe the Universe was something outside me, an external force guiding all the decisions of my life and the people who enter it. The Universe seemed cruel, for it would introduce me to someone I love and then seem to pull them away. “There is someone better,” everyone would tell me, but this started to sound like a broken record the fourth and fifth times it happened. I got tired of it. Something better was always projected out into the future and never within my grasp.

There comes a time when you’ve healed enough to trust the yearnings of your heart, but if you continually believe that something better is in the future and not right now, you make that true. Of course, it is possible to keep attracting new people, but if this belief is not addressed, the outcomes can all be the same.

And so what is there to do when you’ve realized you can trust in what or who you want, but nothing seems to come of it yet? You can rest in the knowing that you deserve that love and live your life knowing it is already yours. There is nothing you need to do or be to get that love. You already have it. There is no void, and there is nothing wrong.

Love can be a feeling long before it becomes an action. If it is possible for you to think of someone every day and yet not reach out to them for months or years, or show external signs of that love, or tell all your friends about it, why should it be so impossible that the feeling could be reciprocal?

This is not to say that you should put your life on hold or that you will need to wait more months and years, but life takes on an entirely different hue when you move forward in it knowing you are loved and you can trust your heart. Life becomes gentler. The Universe feels like a friend. It is much easier to be engaged in your life, whether alone or with someone else, when you have a core belief that you are loved by those you love and everything is alright. Not just alright, but wonderful.

The Universe isn’t cruel. It isn’t anything, other than what you make it.

There isn’t some Jedi Council sitting out in the ether discussing your potential mates, comparing ancient scrolls and deciding who is supposed to be in your life and who is supposed to leave.

There is nothing outside you deciding how your life is supposed to go, unless you truly want and believe that. A lot of people are probably comforted by such ideas, but I am not.

You deserve love that excites you. You deserve to be with the people you love. But if that isn’t possible right now, you deserve to go on creating a life that you love, free of worry. There truly is nothing to worry about. The ones you’re missing now will catch up to you.

There is an over-used quote that many people have said to me about love, and it is this: “Love finds you when you least expect it.” I believe it should be modified to: “You are already loved, and this will become more apparent to you become more engaged in your life and no longer need that love or see it as something to fill your void. You have no void.”

Everything you choose for yourself should excite you and give you good feelings.

And yes, sometimes these feelings will be good butterflies. So don’t be afraid of them!

Dealing With Disagreement as a Conscious Manifestor

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The Law of Attraction itself is straightforward – what you think, believe, and feel predominantly is what you get. What is not so straightforward is living a conscious manifesting lifestyle while those close to you don’t believe, make fun of it, or disapprove.

Last week, I watched the second night of the DNC’s debates that featured Marianne Williamson. She concluded her appearance by saying that President Trump has harnessed fear for political purposes, and now she intends to harness love with her campaign. Even though I very much admire her and agree with her on several issues, I cringed a little as she said it – not because it isn’t true or I disliked it, but because I was imagining the jeers from people in response to her words. I went to bed, and in the morning, Twitter was flooded with memes and articles poking fun at that soundbite. But Marianne Williamson, unlike me, seemed to draw strength from the jokes and could laugh along with everyone. We would all do well to live by her example of taking our jobs, but not ourselves, seriously.

The response above got me thinking about the spiritual closet and how tempting it is to get in there, lock the door, and throw away the key. I have come running out of the closet, and I have poked a few toes gradually out of the closet, but I always have a way of cramming myself back in there the moment I feel like someone disagrees with me or thinks my spirituality is funny or weird. Sometimes I hesitate to write these articles, because I first imagine the response of those who won’t agree, instead of the ones it can help. I have even experienced family thinking I am in a cult after I began writing and sharing articles like these on my social media.

We all struggle with this. We focus on the negative rather than on our achievements. Someone telling me they appreciate me is forgotten the instant someone criticizes me. A nice article about how there are plastic-eating mushrooms in the world is forgotten when I see a photo of plastic waste in the ocean. This is how our minds have been trained, and it can be very difficult to “undo” this. That’s why being consistent and persistent as a conscious creator in the face of perceived failure and others’ disapproval is so very important.

When you live a manifesting lifestyle and try to share with your loved ones about your signs and synchs, or how you’ve changed your thinking, you might be met with resistance. Even if you don’t share, it’s easy to pick up on vibes and know whether someone would be open to LOA or think it’s just a bunch of fairy dust nonsense. I have noticed that people often turn to humor or sarcasm when they don’t know how to respond to one’s beliefs or spirituality. I feel that there is no true malicious intent behind this response, but it’s more because the person is experiencing discomfort with the ideas.

It’s important to understand that while people may disagree or think you’re partaking in silly nonsense that will never amount to anything, their being in disagreement does not affect your ability to attract good into your life. You could be best friends with someone, and their beliefs wouldn’t always be your beliefs. Even if they try to make you feel bad about that or give you evidence of why they’re right, disagreeing is a natural part of being a human on a path specific to you among other humans on other paths specific to them.

As I saw from the Marianne Williamson example, it takes great strength to continue along with your desired path when it seems like a lot of people, or those who are most important to you, do not agree with it or think it’s funny. Sometimes we can make the choice not to speak to anyone about our biggest dreams and thus avoid responses that don’t feel so great, but sometimes, we must be brave enough to speak or write about them so that others who think similarly can benefit from the light we bring to the world.

Disagreement does not equal a lack of love and respect for another person. It simply means that the way you’re living your life, the choices you’re making, differ from someone else’s way. And that is not inherently bad or wrong. If someone else pokes fun at your spirituality or says something negative about it – or thinks you’re in a cult – that’s not your problem. It’s not theirs, either. It’s actually not a problem at all. Remember that saying, “What someone else thinks of you is none of your business”? It’s popular because it’s true. Everything someone says or what they feel is neutral to us, until we give it meaning.

Disagreeing is a natural part of being a human on a path specific to you among other humans on other paths specific to them.

I was miserable when I realized people disapproved of my spirituality, because I chose to take that disapproval to heart. I made it mean that something was wrong with me, that I wasn’t loved. But neither of these statements hold any truth.

If your conscious approach to the law of attraction is working for you, or if you’re yet to see results but feeling better as a result of choosing positive thoughts, that’s all that matters. Maybe it doesn’t work for your Uncle Joe. You don’t have control over Uncle Joe’s life, but you have control over yours. Next time Uncle Joe makes fun of you or asks with a sneer “how those witchcraft books are working for you,” I hope you’ll smile and tell him they’re great.

Next time you feel tempted to take someone’s opinion of you or your life and make it into a story, or allow it to define you in any way, I hope you will remember this. I hope you will continue reading your law of attraction books and twin flame blogs and never cease to choose what makes you feel the tiniest bit better, even if someone else had something mean to say about it. I hope you will continue loving people that you “shouldn’t” love. I hope you will continue writing about topics that may make certain people uncomfortable, because your work will provide relief to countless others.

I hope you will continue to create good things for yourself because you have the power to do so, and that power cannot be taken away by anyone else.